Foster Parenting, Foster Child, Foster Care Blog - Your Children Adjusting To Foster Siblings Part 4

02/12/07

Your Children Adjusting To Foster Siblings Part 4

Posted by : Lanette in Foster Care Blog at 09:04 pm , 347 words, 160 views
Categories: Parenting Challenges, Your Family

Continued....

You have to make your children still feel like they are your first priority. They will need some one- on- one time with each of their parents. You will need to still have family time. Allie had to even share her friends on occasions because a number if not all foster children do not know how to interact, make friends or be a friend, so they may need a child to show them or guide them by their actions.

I did ask Allie if we had the choice to do foster care all over again with all you have lost and experienced, would you do it again? Her answer was, “Yes.” With everything being said, I believe most children will adjust to sharing their home with foster children. Your children will have different experiences and heartache through the journey of foster care. The important thing is allow your children time to adjust and allow them to have their own feelings. Remember your children on a part of this process even if you do not choose to include them. With older foster children they will be sharing possessions, school, friends, and activities. With younger foster they will have to help out more with chores, caring and watching out for the younger children.

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As you start this journey with your family, you will be faced with a number of decisions that you will need to take into a count your family including your children. Every foster placement will be faced with different challenges and struggles. We also face things differently and things that work for one family may not work for your family. Try to handle things quickly before they escalate out of control. Everyone will be giving and taking in this journey. Remember we all make mistakes in parenting and blending families but we must learn through our mistakes and maybe have a few laughs along the way.

Please share how your children abjusted to foster siblings?

"Then come the wild weather, come sleet or snow, We will stand by each other, however it blow."
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Comment from: Chance [Member]

This was a very interesting article. It’s something that we are just starting to get into right now. Our son (came to us a foster child at 13 months - our first placement). So everything in our house is his or has been given to him. He is now 3 and has always been good about sharing his toys, and when a child comes into our home he has always been first to bring them every toy possible to play with. However, we notice that there are some toys he does not want to share, we tell him that is ok, and instead of keeping them in the playroom he can keep them in his room. I had never wanted a bedroom to be a place for toys so I tell him he can keep them there, but not play with them in his room as his room is for sleeping. He seems to get this idea and is more willing to share the toys as long as his prized possessions are in his room safe and sound.

We've been starting to ask him about placements before they come, right now he is at the age where he welcomes and new child as someone to play with. We only do relief right now as we have a long term placement and can't fit any other car seat in our car. So we've been asking him about a child comming for a weekend or a week. Then he likes to help get the room ready for when they come.

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Comment from: Lanette [Member]

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It can be a balancing act at times for foster parents. It is not alway easy for our children to share their entire world with any (foster) child that walks through the door. Thank you for sharing your experiences and for reading.

Lanette

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