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I have had my fair share of weird caseworkers, ones that try to get involved in everything in your home, ones that we did not agree with on what was best for the child and for the large part we have pretty good caseworkers. I think it just boils down to the caseworker also do not know how to interact with every foster parent. Think about it, sadly not all foster parents have the child’s best interest at heart and want to get fully involved. So, in the beginning I think they are seeing what you are like. Their case over load can make things difficult for them.

I had a lot to learn dealing with caseworkers. My biggest problem was that I like to have control of most things and to plan things out. Being a foster parent I have had to overcome my need to control things, which has made me relax some. I still do not allow a caseworker to disrupt my children routine. I can adjust it but I won’t blow it to smithereens. My daughter has to have structure with her sensory integration and major changes can create lasting problems for all. I usually explain the need for structure, what I expect and works best for my entire family. Then I will ask them what they expect from me (bio visits, contact with the child at my home or school, is okay to contact the caseworker through email, do they have concerns about the child that I need to take care of, etc.).

As you start to find your way on the journey of foster parenting, you will find ways that work best for you and the caseworker you are working with at the time.

If anyone else would like to share how they deal with the caseworker possibly being difficult to work with, or how they develop a good working relationship with the caseworkers, please post below.

“It is easy to be wise after the event.”
English Proverb