Stress of Foster Care on a Marriage

Stress of Foster Care on a Marriage - Reality

I have talked about the amount of stress that foster parents deal with on a daily basis, now I want to talk about how not to let the stress take over marriage. It is so easy to get caught up in all the stress and slowly it starts to affect your life, especially your marriage. I have also talked about ways to care for yourself. You cannot work on your marriage if you are not taking care of yourself. Below are some ways for you to stay connected with your spouse.

• Remind him that you appreciate even the small things he does. We can start to take this for granted and forget to say thanks.

• After the children go to bed, take a few minutes to sit outside or on the couch (kid-free) talking and sharing things about your day.

• When everyone is watching television, kick the children off the couch, and cuddle up with your spouse. You may have to keep chasing children off.

• My favorite thing is for my husband to rub and massage my feet with lotion. I have missed that and did not even realize how much.

• When your spouse gets home take 15 to 20 minutes sitting in your bedroom talking or spending time together. In our house we keep the door open otherwise civil war may break out.

• Share a dessert together after the children go to bed.

• This can be as simple as bring home something special for your spouse and it does not have to be expensive. My treat that I love to get is a Sonic Route 44 diet chocolate coke which is only a couple of bucks but I love when I get this treat. I try to make sure my spouse has chocolate for his lunch which I know he likes.

• My dream is for a weekend at a nice hotel with just the two of us.

Please share below how you stay connected with your spouse or how you do not allow stress to affect your marriage.

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