Should Biological and Foster Children Be Parented Together?

Where will the line been draw at? Who is to say what is believed to be acceptable parenting or even how families are made up? A lot of foster children that are adopted do go on to have problems some severe and others not so intense. There are situations where these children may act out against other adopted children in the home. Does this mean that parents should only adopt one child at a time?

A lot of foster families go into foster care to foster to adopt children into their family. I will use myself and my family as the example when talking about this and anyone else can add their choices, reasons, or take, on this issue below.

We have adopted three children from the foster care system and also have a biological daughter. The siblings that we have the pleasure of parenting was a foster to adopt placement from the beginning. We were their first foster (meaning not related) placement but they already had been bounced around with family members. You can read about before they were placed with us here. Our other adopted daughter was placed with us at three months old. We were also her first foster placement once again she also had been bounced around to three other family placements in only two short months.

I cannot imagine my life without these three beautiful blessings that I have been given the pleasure of parenting. Without us being foster parents we would not have these great children in our family. Then to hear someone state parents that are raising biological children should not foster is quite a judgment and a slap in the face.

One could say that it is easy to sit around a table looking down on everyone else and passing judgment on people that do not make the same choices that you do. But really, how is that going to fix a thing, but just add fuel to the fire.

I personally do not agree with people choosing to spend thousands of dollars trying to build their family through making a baby with the means of science when there are so many children needing loving homes. It becomes more about creating a genetic connection and that is not what parenting is all about (my view). But this does not mean that people that choose to do this are wrong or less than a parent than others in my eyes. It is a personal decision and as long as it is for the right reasons then it should not matter to anyone.

More reading:

Are Foster Parents Doing It for the Money?

Why Do You Foster Parent?

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