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Another choice for the biological parents is not to take responsibility for their actions. Everyone else is to blame for them losing their children. If they cannot accept responsibility, then they cannot get help with their problems and learn how to parent their children appropriately.
These are the biological parents that do not put their children first. They deny or make excuses for the abuse to their children. Keeping up with and going to their children’s visits is not an important commitment. If they do show up for the visits, the time is spent fighting with each other, talking on a cell phone, and going on about how wrong they have been treated.
Working the plan that has been set up for them to get their children back is not something they are not interested in. Until about a month before their time is up meaning the court will be deciding if the parents have worked enough or completed their plan to gain custody of the children, they do not give it a second thought. Then, when court time rolls around, they need more time to complete their plan (when the truth is they have not even started working the plan or maybe took one of many classes they needed).
What would be the benefit to giving these biological parents more help, time and support when they are unwilling to do anything for their children? This just extends the trauma and pain for the foster children to see their parents unwilling to work to get them back.
When a mother has allowed her live-in boyfriend to sexually molest her three young girls then to continually deny the abuse happened (even after being told by her own children, family members, doctors, etc.) the damage that she continues to infect to her children by her actions can be unbearable for them.
She repeatedly chooses her boyfriend over her children by remaining in contact with him, giving pictures of the abuser and notes from him to her children at visits when the major requirement for getting her children back has to break all contact with the abuser.
Does the biological mother or father deserve additional help when they cannot do what is asked of them?
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But somehow the system has yet to figure this out
Yes they do need more help but not to help get their children back because it is obvious that the egg or sperm donor does’nt care about the safety and well being of their children only about themselves. This is why the judge, the social worker, and the entire system needs to wake up and just use common sense and take care of our children.