Sometimes it is hard to keep my focus amidst all of the things that I must do in a day. I have to constantly remind myself to stay on task and finish what I start before I move on to the next pressing matter. I am sure that many of you have felt that way. The constant need to keep all of the people in your family cared for- the desire to meet needs for everyone under your ‘watch.’
Taking care of your family has to start with taking care of yourself. I do not do well in this area. I voluntarily work while everyone else is sitting or resting. I use that time to catch up on things that I have neglected. This is not always a good thing. There are so many draws on my time that I often feel tired and worn before my day has begun.
I am working to change that in my life. I believe that all of the children- foster, adopted or biological deserve a well rested mom. By pushing myself, I give them less than that. So, in light of that revelation, I try to join them when they sit- sometimes. It is not easy for me to do but I have made it a priority.
Foster children take so much out of their parents. They need so much time, attention and nurturing. It is not fair for them if they need but their parents have nothing to give. That is the reason for my change in priorities. I want each child to grow up knowing that I was there and solidly able to handle their issues alongside the issues that come with life. I know that they will emulate whatever I do. So I make my choices accordingly.
If you are fostering and feel overwhelmed, be sure to take time to regroup. Make an effort to sit when your family does- that is what the kids will remember.