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My friend wanted to mother her and stated that there was no harm done. Yes, I realize that it was not a horrible thing the child did. I also know and explained that I have this child for a short time in their life. The time I have them I have to teach, give them morals, life lessons, show them right from wrong and show them a different way in life. You have to remember that most likely they have never had someone to teach them anything or want a better life for them. My friend did understand after I explained and she handled it just as I would. Then she cried on my shoulder after. It made a very big impact on this child and showed her that someone else cared about her.

One of the hardest things that others have difficult with in the beginning, is when the child has a melt down. A melt down can be for any reason and depending on the child can entail emotional break down, crying, talking super fast, cussing, anger, screaming, violence, throw things, may come abuse, etc.. The best way I have found to deal with this is that other people step back and not get involved. Which at times when a child is verbally attacking you (including the name calling) and may try to become aggressive towards you, this can be very hard for family and friends to deal with. The more other people become involved, the more it feeds the child’s behavior.

Seeing someone restrain a child is difficult and can create problems. So, if you have a child that may require being restrained on a regular basis. You will need to prepare your family or friends to the possibility for this, what to expect, and what not to do.

Please share one of your more embarrassing moments with your foster child and how you handle it, below.



"Pick the flower when it is ready to be picked."
Chinese Proverb