Children living in foster care is suppose to be a temporary situation. There are cases where children spend years living in foster care. Should this concern us for a number of reasons?
The biological parents deserve time to get their lives together so they can get their children back from foster care. This is a point that most of us can agree with. Should there be a time frame that the courts have to follow? Why should parents get years to decide to be responsible parents?
Being a parent is not about convenience. It should be about the children. As a parent you must have a commitment to the children that you have been blessed with. Children do not ask to be born or do not choose the timing. All of that is in the hands of the parents. We are not all blessed with having our acts together before having children and some parents do need assistance to become parents to their children living in foster care. The thought of it taking years is a little much. What else in life do you have the luxury of years to decide to be responsible?
Children are a gift, a blessing, they are not a right to the biological parents. Children deserve rights and their rights should come first and foremost. Living years in limbo while their parents see if they can be responsible enough to parent does still happen. We have to look at what kind of damage can be done to a child that is moved out of a loving home after living there for years.
I think 18 months, maybe two years is adequate time for a biological parent to become responsible enough to be parents. I believe that a child that spends years living in a home and then one day is moved does great damage to the child.
Should the rights of a child come before the parents? How much time should a parent have to become responsible? What is the difference in a child living in foster care for 8 years or 17 years then being returned to the biological parents?
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