When people who do not regularly come over, are coming to your home it can make you feel apprehensive about what they will think. Especially when they show up unannounced and your house looks like a tornado just went through. If you have children, people should expect to see toys on the floor. They also expect to see that the house is lived in and the inhabitants have fun. An experienced social worker would probably be suspicious to find your home immaculate if young children live in it already. It can make you seem fake, and may cause the social worker to wonder what else you are faking or hiding. Do not misunderstand me, I am not suggesting that you leave or make your house filthy.
I am suggesting that you be real. Clean your house as you usually do. For example, once a day we sweep and mop, run the vacuum, clean the bathrooms, take out the trash, clean the kitchen, and do the dishes. We usually do our household chores from 1pm until around 2pm. Sometimes, by 5pm the house is a mess again and definitely by the next morning. Would I run around trying to straighten the house if a caseworker is coming over early? I would probably put all of the dishes in the sink and pick up the dirty clothes off from the floor. If there were a lot of food on the kitchen floor, I would sweep most of it up. If the caseworker looks around, I might mention that job time isn’t until 1pm. We have other things to do than waste our lives keeping the house spotless.
The house is disinfected everyday and the children rarely get ill so it must be working for us. If it were our annual licensing inspection, I would probably ask the children to do their chores early. However, there would still be some clutter and a lot of stuff. Right now, we have nine people living in our house. That is the least number of people who have lived her in many years. Seven are children so as you can imagine we have many toys, books, and games. I also babysit for my two granddaughters three days a week. That gives us three children who are two and younger. If the caseworker didn’t see some messes, she should probably investigate.
Just as when completing your homestudy and family profile, you need to be real. You are more likely to receive calls for children who fit into your family, if the caseworkers know who you really are.
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