Knowing this was the right thing for my family was not as easy as knowing for myself. My husband was reserved about being a foster parent but he also knew how important this was for me on a personal level. I was not sure if it was something that it he would take to or like.

In time he fell into it, granted it was not his passion as it was mine. When we started fostering the children that we have now adopted he found that he did like it. We had the pleasure of fostering a newborn infant right from the hospital, she was born addicted to drugs and went through withdrawal. My husband fell hard for this sweet 5 pound baby girl and all the struggles with her did not matter. She was the only child that I have seen him cry over.

We had one daughter when we decided to become foster parents. Our daughter was up for fostering from the beginning but it goes back to it was something that I always talked about. If she had told me that she did not want to do foster care I probably would have asked her to at least try it for a period of time and give it a chance. If she had said this was not something she wanted to do after trying or any time while we fostered then I would have stopped.

This does not mean there will not be rocky times involving your own children when you foster. Our first placement was a very difficult one for my daughter and our family, one that I did not know if we could work through it. This placement was an adoptive placement by our choice so this is not the normal first placement and we also do therapeutic foster care.

More reading:

Abuse by a Foster Child

Abuse by a Foster Child: The Beginning of Abuse

Abuse by a Foster Child: The Reality

Abuse by a Foster Child: The Pain

Abuse by a Foster Child: Breaking Hearts

Abuse by a Foster Child: Finding Help

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