When children come into foster care, many times siblings will be separated for any number of reasons. This can be a very hard thing for children to deal with, since they are already losing the connection to everything that they know. It is very important for the siblings to feel connected and remain in contact with each other. Foster parents are the key to helping their child maintain this bond.

Below are ways to help your foster child with his or her sibling relationships.

Providing a sibling visit at least once a month is the foundation of continuing their relationship. Do not have it at the same place each time. A local park, museums (some can even be free of charge), botanical gardens, going to a pond to feed ducks, going to the movies (look for the Dollar Movies), or for older children, the mall. These can all be places to have visits.


Pictures of his or her siblings are important. Having one in his or her room can be comforting. Also, remember to take pictures of them during their visits, this can help maintain their relationship and making them feel closer.

If your child is older, then phone calls can benefit a sibling relationship. This can help the children feel like they are still a part of each other's lives. Phone calls at holidays can be important, since it is hard and most likely impossible to do visits during this time.

Writing notes, cards, letters, and drawing pictures can keep the siblings connected. All children love to get mail, it makes them feel important and loved.

Allowing and helping your foster child to make or buy a small gift for his or her siblings at Christmas and birthdays. This can have a meaningful impact on both of the siblings.

Setting up a sleepover for your foster child’s sibling can mean the world to him or her. Including the sibling on a special outing can be a great treat for them.

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