July 22nd, 2007
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Some people think or believe that foster parents are waiting, hoping, praying that the biological parents mess up or choose not to follow their plan to get their children back. If this was the case, then foster parents would not be willing to take foster children short term (2 or 3 weeks) or until kinship placement is worked out.

For the most part, I believe most foster parents do it for the children. Yes, I do know there are a few bad ones that do it for the money. I would think there would be a more involved way to help biological parents with counseling, teaching parenting classes, etc. if that was your goal.


Child welfare’s goal is to assist the parents in receiving the help they need and then reuniting the family. Even when it may not be in the best interest of the children because that is the primary goal. Foster care is not black and white it is full of gray areas.

Judges tend to be pro unification maybe because it does look better for their record. The judge’s job is to see that the parents’ rights are protected and they have their day in court. Which I totally support.

Here lays the problem. Who is looking solely for the foster children? Who looks out for their rights and takes into account what is in their best interest?

As the foster parent, I want what is best for the children that I am caring for. Sadly, there are a number of placements that the foster parent may truly feel in their heart is not in the best interest of the children. A lot of this is common sense by watching the interaction or lack of it with the children and parents. Talking to these parents, knowing what is going on in their lives you can get a pretty clear idea of what is important at this time in their lives.

More reading:

Who Pays the Price?

How to Help Biological Parents Feel Involved With Foster Children

Is Parenting a Right or a Privilege?

How Many Second Chances?

Biological Parents Needing Additional Help

Not all Biological Parents Deserve Additional Help

One Response to “Foster Parents Versus Biological Parents”

  1. dcbarne says:

    In my situation I am the paternal aunt of the child and know the biological mother is not fit to care for this child she has not interest in this child. She has done her service agreement (a couple of months of DHS observation vs 8 years of personal observation)she is no more fit for taking care of her children than a pit bull taking care of a child. My problem is the system doesnot care about the children they are only concerned about having no children in the system, why not give these children to someone who realy wants to LOVE them like all children deserve. What can I do.

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