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I am a foster parent in Florida. They are do no better/no worse than CA where I've also been a FP. And it definately is not as simple as Breathe/ you qualify. It takes months worth of training and jumping thru hoops to get your license - and heaven forbid if you live a normal life where kids get bumps and bruises 'cause Bio's will raise holy cain and swear that the child is not being supervised. And, while the cm's are taxi'ing the bio's around or the kids to visit the bio's AT THE TIME AND PLACE OF THEIR CONVENIENCE, the bio's are learning nothing of responsiblity or showing that they are interested in doing anything but blaming someone else because they have a rotten life. I'm the one sitting up with the kids all night but I have to be stronger and better than bio's because these children will get up and someone will take them right out of my life and never, never let me know something as small as how they are doing.

My husband and I worked very hard to become foster parents in Florida. It is much harder than breathe and you qualify. It took us over a year of having everything in your life examined with a fine tooth comb and then taking 8 weeks of classes. Within 30 minutes of receiving our license we were called with two adorable little girls 1 & 2. Our dream children. They have been with us for almost 4 months and they love us and have called us Mommy and Daddy since day 1. Their parents are druggies and inmates. These childrens lives have been sheer hell and they were physically abused. Guess what? Now they are going to a distant great aunt in Georgia who they don't even know. Our system is so screwed up. It is really a very sad situation. This is one instance when placing them with families members is not better. We are the first stability these children have ever had. Like the previous person said. I am the one who gets up at night and soothes my little girls after visitation when they have nightmares. I am the one who caught up all their shots in the first month because they had never been given proper medical care. We are the ones that these children love. We should be the ones to keep them. It makes me sick to know these children will get uprooted again. Our only hope is that they will make their way back into the system again. It's terrible to wish for that but they have been in and out of it all their lives. All we can do is hope for the best and cry.

It was hard for us not to be able to see our former foster son, who left one month ago...yesterday was his birthday, and I know he would have loved to have had a party with his friends that he made while here. We miss Him a lot...but, we do know that God will continue to be with him.

This message member lazyoakscottage I'm not sure if this was a typo but if this IS what you ment you are soooo wrong Our only hope is that they will make their way back into the system again. How can you say something like that just cause your made that you lost your "DREAM CHILDREN" Further more do you even know the Aunt? Are you prejudging her? Cause that is by far horrible of you. I'm not sure if you are a foster to Adopt home but to have those little darlings calling you mom and dad and YOU dont even know if your going to beable to keep them can/is more damaging to them in the long run. My niece went to a foster home when she was 6 months old and they had her calling them mom and dad also and had already changed her name and was calling her by that even before TPR was talked about. Not all children placed in foster care need to be there. There are many reported cases where they are taken without good cause. Then can you consider how that makes a person feel that just lost their kids and have to fight the system like dogs and most likely fail anyways to find out that the child is calling the foster parent mom/dad and have changed their name behind your back. That is what is screwed up I have paid almost $10,000 in legal fees trying to get my sisters kids out of the system cause there is no reason why they should still be there. But you can not fight politics the state gets federal funding for children in foster care. I have done alot of research lately and I don't have a prayer in winning my case and I have not done any wrong and the children live in the same town as me and my children go to their school and I see them all the time. Plus FYI they are being abused by the foster parent with an abuse report closed with some indicators of abuse and they refuse to remove the 7 children. So it may be hard to get the licence to become a foster parent it will take an act of congress or a child actually death while in your custody as with the death of Marcus Fiser to get your licence revoked.

I would have to agree with dede4583. Why in the world would you wish a child was in a situation that meant they need to be put into foster care. Why would you hope that a child gets once again abused or neglected? so that you can have that child. If you want to adopt a child then adopt a child. There are alot of children out there that need a home and a family. There are alot of children that are already able to be adopted so WHY in the world would you wish more pain on these little children. That is very very sad. I would think that you would HOPE that the home they go to loves them like you do and wants nothing but the best for them.