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We fostered two brothers for over a year both were mentally retarded, one was PDD and one was autistic. This was not anything new to us because my husband and I have worked with special needs children. This was a major, major adjustment for others. Some just could not accept it, mainly I believe they did not how to act or to deal with the differences. We took a family vacation to the Texas Gulf and planned on placing the boys in respite. With more challenging kids, you have a very difficult time finding someone to keep them, which we did. The day before leaving for a week at the Gulf, we had nobody to keep the boys (respect does not always work out). So, we talked to our children about this bump in the road and we decided to take the boys with us (My children’s ages 12, 3, 2 - foster ages 3, 2). Everyone thought we were crazy and that our family should come first. I had arranged day care during the day, so my family could have some much needed time together. Yes, after the fact I thought we were a little crazy too, but would do it again. Everything did not go smoothly, but we had a lot of fun and laughs (which I will share our fun but crazy trip on another blog). The point is that to this day, people still think we did not make the right decision. We know that it was right for us and we have wonderful memories. We also have wonderful memories of our two foster sons.

It has taken all of us time to adjust to things. Patience is what you need. During our time fostering, we have adopted our two children and were not sure how people would accept them . We did not want any difference with the treatment than our bio daughter receives and what our two little ones would receive. In time our family and friends had their hearts stolen by our two little ones. We are fostering a bi-racial baby girl, that our families have fallen in love with and are hoping we get to adopt her. This was a big surprise to us because of her being bi-racial and she will make number four for us. Time can change a lot of things. Most people will find their way in time and with patience. If I was told that our families would want us to adopt this baby girl a year ago, I would not have believed you. It just shows that we all change in time.


“Tomorrow is the most important thing in life. Comes into us at midnight very clean. It's perfect when it arrives and puts itself in our hands. It hopes we've learned something from yesterday.”
John Wayne