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I started having my children including foster children in my bedroom playing games, watching a movie, etc. when it was time for her to get home. This would work for the most part, because children are not allowed in my bedroom without permission (what ever reason she followed that rule). Granted she was still hostile towards me, calling me names (I am a big girl and can handle it. It really bothered my other children to see her treat me this way and call me names.) I would let her vent at me, I didn’t respond much. She would ask, “Do you hear me?” I would respond, “I am sorry you are having a bad day. I will sit and listen to you if you stop screaming and calling me names.” I would go about my business while this 8 year old followed me around venting at me. Yes, I know some of you are thinking I am crazy and wrong for allowing this. I did know during her venting at me, that she would starting talking about what her bio mother and sister had done. Bingo, she was not aiming this towards me but really at her bio mother and sister, I was just the person there that she could let her true feelings come out. The venting and name calling was towards her bio mother and sister but I was the one enduring the venting. This little girl had some much underlaying issues to deal with. I will write more about her story in the future.


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Remember with basic children the behaviors should not be as intense ( does not mean this will always be the case but for the biggest part). We do therapeutic foster care, the 8year old little girl is one of these children. So most likely if you are fostering basic children they should not be as damaged as some of the children that come through our home.

“Then, without realizing it, you try to improve yourself at the start of each new day; of course, you achieve quite a lot in the course of time. Anyone can do this, it costs nothing and is certainly very helpful. Whoever doesn't know it must learn and find by experience that a quiet conscience makes one strong.’
Anne Frank