Continued......

The things to remember you will be the one to raise above the finger pointing and etc.. Most bio parents that you will be dealing with will need to take parenting classes, anger management classes, so they do not necessarily know how to act appropriately or getting along with others can also be an issue. So, as hard as it is at time we have to ignore, look the other way and just try to make to work as has as possible for the sake of your foster children. At times you will have to hear someone insult you or say horrible things about you as a person and a mother. You may have to remind yourself that these people do not have the first idea how to be a productive member of society let alone a decent parent. I have a number of things thrown in my face and insulted by them. ’’I will not have a white woman raising my children”.“ She’s stealing my children.” “She is not feeding my children and abusing them.” “She is lying to my children about me. She wants my children because she cannot have children of her own.” Then telling their children that I may be trying to keep them away from the parents and these are just some of the things you may get thrown at you.

Most likely you will be the one trying to work things out and trying to make peace for your foster children sake. The bio parents are already caught up in their life that is spiraling out of control out and sadly their children are not on top of their list of priorities. Do not expect the bio parents to work at a relationship with you and even find their children adjust to being in foster care. You have to be the one willing to go the extra mile for your foster children.

Continued.........


“Our problems are man-made, therefore they may be solved by man. No problem of human destiny is beyond human beings.”
Kennedy