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Sadly, bio parents can and have taken their anger out by calling to make allegations towards the foster parents. It usually depends on who makes the allegations too. If it is the caseworker, they may talk with you and document it but if the allegation is made to another worker or abuse hot line, then things can get a little sticky. This is when things can get very difficult for the foster family. There are many different directions this can go at this point. It could be as simple as an investigation in your home, cleared within a few days, and then it is possible that your foster children can be removed from your home until the investigation is closed. An investigation can go on for a few days to several months. This is why I believe that bio parents do not need to know you full names, the town you live in, and other personal information about your family. You always have to protect your family and the foster children in your home from people that are angry at the situation that they find themselves in and want to hurt you.

My experience has been that bio parents of my foster children look for reasons to be unhappy with the care that their children are receiving. They quickly forget that the reason that their child is in foster care is due to their lack of care or abuse that their children have suffered.

You can have minor problems like the bio parents having issues with what clothes they wear to visits, to a baby wearing a hair bow, to what diaper bag you use, or you can have major issues like the bio parents wanting to control every detail from their haircut (how often, how much you cut off, etc.) to kinds of foods they eat, to the hygiene products they want you to use on their child, and on the list can just continue on.


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