Oh, where to start on this one. The truth being that you as the foster parent will not be bio family’s favorite person. In their eyes you have the child that they should have. To them it doesn’t matter why or how their child came into care. They just want their child back and they feel victimized by CPS, remember in their eyes you are part of the CPS system.

If you do visits with your foster child, you will get to know the bio family. In the beginning it is very stressful for everyone, since everyone is on edge and not sure what to except. In time you may even develop a special working relationship with the bio parents of your foster child. On occasion, you may even develop a positive relationship with the bio parents that continue be a lasting relationship, granted this does not happen a lot.

The relationship I have with my foster daughter’s bio family, is a love (maybe not love but tolerant) hate for them. One minute they are telling me how much they appreciate what I am doing for their daughter, what great care she is receiving. The next breath, they are saying that they are concerned about her safety and how do they know we are keeping her safe. Then, the next thing we know the parents are making threats towards us and CPS stating that for all they know we are abusing their daughter. I personally do not trust bio parents and keep them at a distance because of the explosive and not so calm thinking.

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“Our attitudes control our lives. Attitudes are a secret power working twenty-four hours a day, for good or bad. It is of paramount importance that we know how to harness and control this great force.”
Tom Blandi