I have received some questions concerning foster care from biological parents. Normally my blog is directed to foster parents. Biological parents that are trying to seek information on how to become better parents for their children in foster care need to be given a chance. I will try to answer questions that have been asked of me. Sugar coating things is not something I do. My approach is direct and honest.

A biological mother wants to be part of her child’s life in foster care and feels the foster parents are making it difficult for her. Foster parent’s busy daily life has become the life of her child and that it makes contact difficult for the biological mother. She would like to know how to work with the foster parents.

Foster parents are no different than anybody else they attend weddings, funeral, vacations, family outings, etc. that is part of their life. Most of us have children some at home and others grown that are part of our daily lives. Foster parents do not sit and wait all day with the children we are fostering. We live “normal” lives with our families and foster children. Life in my home (which is a foster home) is busy, hectic, escpeially during holidays and summer.

With foster care the foster parents are encouraged to involve the foster children in the family life including special occasions and events. Yes, this may make things are difficult for the biological parents but it is the right thing for the foster children. Think about how it would feel to a foster child if his foster family went to a family wedding staying in a hotel, vacations or other fun family outings and placed him in respite care. Respite care is more or less being dropped off at a babysitter’s house whom the foster parents may or may not know.

Take a moment and think about things from your child’s point of view. The biological parent’s point of view can be hurt, anger, jealousy which are natural feelings but your child’s feelings must come before yours.

More reading:

Is Parenting a Right or a Privilege?

Why do Foster Parents Continue?