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I think we spend so much time looking for reasons or placing blame with the things we deal with in our lives. I do understand that adoption did have an effect on my life, but in a good way. Society does have a lot to learn about how to react and treat adopted children and even adults. Being adopted does add some different thoughts and maybe in some elements struggles or just facing the past for others.

I think about my birth family once in a while what are they like, how different am I from them, half siblings, what would they think of me or do they? Also the birth family reunion can lead to struggles for some. In my case, it was a little different I did not have expectations with my birth mother. Her and my older sibling’s expectations were so unrealistic, that it was painful for them when things did not play out the way they hoped. I also think there are some preconceived notions with the reunion that it makes it a difficult process. I know there are some very successful reunions and that is wonderful, just not always the reality

Adoption for my parents and our family was a great thing (yes, with hurdles, but still great). Yes, mistakes were made but we all make mistakes parenting. It does not matter if they are adopted or bio children. I believe growing up as an adopted child that I have done pretty well. I have adopted two children as of now and hope to adopt more. I believe the way my children will deal with being adopted, is how I choose to parent my children.

I think we all have to remember there are bad and good with bio parents, adoptive parents, birth mothers, parenting skills, extended families, and with everything possible.


“Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined.”
Henry David Thoreau