I have been reading Jupe (Adoptee Blog) series on adopted children having, or not having issues. As an adoptee, I can totally understand what she is saying. I do understand that being adopted adds different elements and thoughts that others may not have. Everyone is shaped by their experiences, parenting, relationships, etc. that was happening in their life. It all is up to us how to deal with life. Yes, being adopting for me has included some difficult times. The real question is “Could I have still had some of the difficult times if I had been my parents biological child?” I believe that most of the difficult times would have been there either way.

One of the difficult things I have dealt with throughout my life as being adopted is with ongoing problems with a sister, C (she is over fifteen years older than me) . She was the only child before my parents decided to adopted. I was adopted as a baby with my half sister KK (13 months older than me). My sister C was jealous from the beginning and the jealousy continued to grow through the years. I believe that C liked being the only child and did not want to share her parents with anyone. I believe that it is very possible that she would not have liked sharing her parents even if Mom was able to have other children. This is why I think it is very important that your bio children are supportive of adoption or foster parenting. For the adopted child the jealousy can over time feel like hatred and can possibly be just that.My sister C and I have talked about it but in the end it is still there. She has explained that she was the center of our parents attention and then one day a baby comes through the door and things changed.

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“The art of being wise is knowing what to overlook.”
William James