I have been asked how I deal with accepting change or letting go of things when I do not necessarily agree with decisions that have been made for my foster son or daughter. Really there is no easy answer to this question. Every case every child will have different circumstances so the answers will vary every time. Yes you may be the only person the child has ever felt love from, and who truly cares about what is the best interest of the child. Sad to say you’re a minor person (as a Foster parent) in the grand scheme of the system making choices and decisions for the child’s future. In some cases the caseworkers do not want the foster parents involved at all.

I had a young foster daughter that spent some time in foster care. In the beginning of her and her brother were both removed and placed in foster care for almost a year. They came out of a very bad situation, her younger brother had to be hospitalized due to broken bone burns that were not recent and infection. He had a long about with skin grafts in getting over his injuries. They were several different versions of what happened, so what happened was really anybody’s guess. After almost a year in foster care they were placed with an older sister. The girl had a very difficult time with this placement caused a lot of problems and had a number of behavior issues while being cared for by her older sister. After couple of months The older sister called CPS again room to inform them that you would continue providing care for her younger brother that her you younger sister would have to be removed from her home.

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“You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.”
Les Brown