A foster mom was the only mother a 10 year old boy has known for 8 years of his life. Then in a flash she is no longer is mother. The foster child was raised with the foster mom’s son that he new as a brother. With the tap of the judge’s gavel the life this child knew ended.

The foster mom got the most dreaded call that took a child that she had raised as her own and gave her three days to pack him up. What happened to allowing the child to transition to returning to his biological mother?

The boy was allowed to finish the school year at his old school where his foster mother is a substitute teacher. A social worker drives the child back and forth each day to attend school. Would a social worker go out of their way for a foster family as they are doing for a biological mother?

Oh my….. where do I begin with this one, it is so wrong on so many different levels. How does it benefit a child that has lived 8 years in a loving, safe, stable home to tear him away from a life that he can only remember? When is it about the child and not about a biological parent that thinks they have the right to parent?

How can a parent be unfit for 8 years and then magically it changes? Parenting is about being responsible for a child all of the time not about the convenience of years to decide that you want to be a parent. To me this seems like a form of abandonment by the biological mother. Being a parent is not about a one hour visit every two weeks. She left her toddler in foster care to live, bond, love, and grow into a boy without the responsibities of a parent.

How does a judge believe this could be in the best interest of a child? Why was the person that had mothered this child for 8 years of his life not involved in this court decision? How does this remotely seem right to the court?


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