- A huge life! That is my goal for all of the kids under my care. I desire it to the very core of my being and live a major portion of my life making it so. That is how every foster parent should feel about the kids that they are caring for. I think if I could give one message to the world it would be that every kid deserves happiness- true happiness. Imagine a world filled with children who know beyond a shadow of a doubt that theya re valued and loved. The thought brings joy to my heart. Though I cannot change every kids life, I can change the ones that are mine (whether it just be for a season.) I look forward to spreading the message of care and compassion to everyone who will listen.
When I look at the kids that are in my care, I have to daily check myself to ensure that their needs and deep desires are being met. This is not easy and I sometimes fail but I just refocus and set about to rectify where I failed. Children need so much. They need someone who can look into their lives and see their heart. They need someone who celebrates their good times and push them through their bad. How does a foster parent accomplish that level of parenting while still working, taking care of the other children, caring for a house, all of the things that come with life? I haven’t figured that out yet. Not only do all of these things require attention but the facts must include the emotions. Emotions are complex and figure deeply into every part of raising any child but especially a foster child. Foster children have needs that go deeper. They have been rejected and/or hurt by those whom they should have been able to trust. This causes much more work on your part as a parent. Your job is to rebuild the broken, heal the heart and offer assurance of stability.
This sounds almost insurmountable but it is not. There is so much that can be done to give a foster child another chance. That is where life steps in and makes things new. I love the thought that loss is not set in stone. That hearts can be changed. Fostering offers that amazing opportunity. If you are in the position to change a child’s life- take the time to reach that child where they are. It will make a huge difference.