A 21 month old baby girl named, Hailey lay dying a slow horrible death in her on home while her mother and mom’s boyfriend were at the residence. Hailey spent 5 hours in what must have been horrible pain dying slowly. This baby girl, not even two years old lay foaming at the mouth, wheezing while fighting to breath. Her tiny body was fighting to live while her little arms and legs were twitching. This precious baby’s life was lost two days later when she was removed from life support.

Once again this family is no stranger to child welfare. Hailey was abused by her biological father at two months old. He slapped the newborn infant so hard that she developed a blood clot in her eye along with swelling and bruising of her infant’s face. This time this baby was not so lucky in just receiving a beating (what a horrible thing to have to say about an infant). Her final beating ended in her death after mom’s boyfriend smashed the baby’s head into the playpen and left her there to die.

Some may be wondering why I have been so blunt, straight forward and graphic in starting this blog. When we hear of another children dying at the hands of their biological family members or friends of the family it bothers us, but we should be outraged.

Biological parents should not have the right to harm their children or allow others to harm them. If there is a case of child abuse proven, the biological parent should have to prove to will not happen again. This mother got a second chance (maybe more) and Hailey was not given a second chance.

But the “all mighty” we must, must at all cost keep families together because the biological parents deserve it. This is what burns me up about all this talk about biological families deserving reunification. So many people or groups support family reunification for biological parents across the board when in reality; it cannot work for all families. Maybe in a perfect world it could be an option for all biological families. Wake up people. The world we are living in is far from perfect. Next time you hear the “pie in the sky” family reunification for biological parents take a moment and think about the children who die horrible lonely deaths at the hands of their biological parents. The people that are suppose to love them more than any thing in this world.


Is it really okay for children to die because it makes some of us feel better, and all warm and fuzzy inside with family reunification?

I wonder how many would really support family reunification if they had to endure what these children and yes, even infants had to endure.

More reading:

Family Reunification, How it Can Go So Wrong

Family Reunification Over What is Best For The Children?

Foster Children + Family Reunification Can Lead to Problems