1. Have pets put up. A large number of foster children are afraid of pets, so they need the time to adjust slowly.

2. I try and always have my other children around, so this helps ease the tension. My children usually will give the tour of the house showing the important things like toys, tv, movies, and the outside toys:)

3. We have an age appropriate movie and tv show on the tv, this seems to be comforting for them. It also helps when you are trying to do all the paperwork.

4. Have something ready for the children to drink (sippy cup if toddler) and sometimes a light snack.

5. If you are dealing with older children, give them a shelf to place their personal belongs and photos of their family. With younger children give them a stuffed animal or a small blanket for comforting themselves.

6. Do not push them to eat at the first meal, they my feel very scared. They just may need a few bites or nothing.

7. Allow the children to talk about their life, family, feelings, and what is happening with them in their own time. This may be a day or a lot longer, it is different with each child.

8. Allow and accept their feelings about being in foster care and in your home. Remember most likely they do not want to be in your home, so allow them time. They will be grieving for their families and homes.

9. Talk to the child about how things are done in your home. Not knowing what to expect sometimes can cause a lot of anxiety. Think of when your first day at a new job, you are unsure about what to expect, the routine, and just the unknown.

10. Let the child know that you will be there to meet their needs. You will have to prove this and keep reassuring them of this. Most likely this is a very new concept for them.



“It is easy to be wise after the event.”
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