Space for Older Foster Children: The Importance of Space of Love

November 21st, 2012

unicornRumor warned against becoming foster parents of older children while having younger children. That's the advice I'd heard for years. Younger children can't always express their feelings or what's going on, and sometimes it's just easier on everyone if the ages of the children in the home either match or you become a foster parent after they have all gotten older. Sadly, that was my mindset for quite awhile. And with a toddler and two elementary school kids, I stuck pretty firmly with that. But then everything changed with just one phone call. One Phone Call, One Emergency My best friend, Cassie, works at DSS, monitoring foster care cases. At times, Lake and I had thought about becoming foster parents. After all, we have this… [more]

Just Like the Other Kids

June 27th, 2011
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1207125_promiseA slight tremor runs down many people's spine when they hear the word teenager. This is true in foster care settings as well as other parts of society. So many times I have heard foster parents say, "I can take babies, toddlers and young children but no teens. They are too much trouble." There is often a lot of baggage that comes when a teenager is introduced to a family- baggage that  comes from years of abuse, mistreatment or indifference. It is difficult to think of bringing that into a home. The thought of the emotional upheaval can bring nauseous feelings to even the strongest person. Yet, there are thousands of teenagers waiting in foster care. Some of them do have baggage, others just hold a… [more]

Group Homes and Other Craziness

May 1st, 2011
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mothers day vintage graphic--graphicsfairy010I almost threw a rock at my television the other day.  A television actress was bragging to Ellen or someone about a group home she started in her home town in Mississippi.  She said she started the home to "fix the broken foster care system."  Seriously??? There is so much that people do not understand about Foster Care.  They have the impression that (a) siblings are always separated, (b) that kids go to foster care and never get out, and (c) that all foster homes are negligent, dirty and uncaring.  By the way, this is the point of view that the actress was putting forth. By contrast, my experience with foster parents is completely the opposite.   Maybe things are different… [more]

Foster Child to 1st-Time Overseas Flyer: New Beginnings; 41 Yrs in the Making

February 23rd, 2011

Nathan J WilliamsBeing raised in the foster care system between the ages of 5 and 18 was a great rehearsal for what is transpiring in my life today at the age of 46.  I am traveling to foreign places, trusting that the people I meet will appreciate and love me, sight unseen.  Often, foster children see their situation as unusual and unfair.  However, it is in moments of uncertainty, which have filled my life all too often, that I understand that my upbringing has uniquely prepared me for the challenges that have come my way.  I am frequently reminded that I must see the possibilities in all situations and circumstances. We will leave from London via a tour bus to the Netherlands, from… [more]

When a Birth Parent Thanks the Foster Parent

April 14th, 2008

One of the rewards of foster parenting is when a birth parent thanks you; when you know that a birth parent really appreciates all you have done, and all you are doing, for his or her child. My five-year-old foster daughter’s mother looked me in the eyes and said, “I couldn’t do what you do. I don’t know how you can do it.” The name of a child we had fostered several years ago had come up and she had asked me about whom we were talking. I explained that it was a child we thought we were adopting. She had come into our family as a newborn and had stayed until she was 20 months old. Our family was deeply in love with her. Then… [more]

How to Help Foster Children

June 29th, 2007
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The truth is that not every person is cut out to be a foster parent. We all have should have some responsibility for the foster children. Some of us can make an ongoing commitment that will involve our time like tutoring, big brother or sister, child advocate, etc. While with others time can be a factor, and they just do not have extra time. You do not have to make a major financial commitment either to help foster children in care. Even something as easy as purchasing a duffle bag, suitcase or a pair of pajamas can be a great way to help the children in foster care. Theses are not things that will break your pocketbook either. Below, you will find some ways, and other ideas to… [more]

Alabama “Hearts to Soles” Helping Foster Children

April 11th, 2007
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A number of foster children coming into care do not have shoes or the shoes they have do not fit them. It is sad to think that there are children in the United States going without shoes and other basic needs. Alabama has decided to observe Child Abuse Prevention Month (April) and National Foster Care Month (May) by asking people to come together to help the 6,000 children in foster care in Alabama. Alabama Foster and Adoptive Parent’s Association and the Alabama Secretary of State’s office are coming together, to ask that everyone donated shoes for the 6,000 foster children in care. The shoes can be used or new any sizes or gender. Shoes need to be dropped off or mailed by April 20th. If you have children… [more]

Helping Foster Teenage Girls to Have a Memorable Prom

February 27th, 2007
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Remember your prom, how perfect you wanted it to be. Finding the perfect dress was best part of the experience. It is that time of the year for prom dress, corsages, dancing and so much more. A mother in Texas had a number of her daughter’s prom dresses hanging in the closet and decided to find someone that could benefit from them. There are so many teenage foster girls that will be experiencing their prom this year in the next couple of months. Most of us have at least one if not more prom, homecoming or formal dresses sitting in the back of our closet. Consider contacting your local CPS or other foster care agencies to donate your dresses to help make a foster girls prom dream come… [more]

Hoping For Foster Families

January 2nd, 2007
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There is a desperate need of foster homes for children already in the foster care system. Most every state is having difficulties providing a foster home to children coming into care or already in care. In the Bay Area of California, they are seeking help from the area religious community. In San Mateo and Santa Clara counties there are about 500 children needing homes. There are around 1,200 churches in the area. If one family from each church would become foster parents, this would allow every child a home. You may read the entire article from this link. In San Mateo county there are 457 foster children but they only have 74 foster homes. I believe this could be accomplished in a number of states and cities. This would… [more]

The Ripples of Responsibility

January 1st, 2007
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You hear repeatedly what a mess this country is in, how mankind treats their fellow man, and the lack of morals (and on and on and on). What gets me is that things will not change unless we change it. Yes, we all have the responsibility of our daily lives and our family. People do tend to be more giving at Christmas time but you can continue to give through out the year. If we want this to be a better place for our children, then we have to start making a positive change in this world. Our children are bombarded with violence, sadness, prejudice (from the color of the skin, to being different in school, having special needs, etc.) sex, drugs, and the overall bad of this world on… [more]