Our social worker came yesterday for our quarterly review. I have almost completed my training hours this year -- we only lack two hours. Nonetheless, I signed up to take the Karyn Purvis inspired course, "Trauma-Informed Care." I am really excited about this course for one simple reason: I think most kids who come into the foster system have experienced trauma. In some ways, it's blindingly obvious. We are born to parents whom we are biologically programmed to love and to depend upon. When that bond is broken, for any reason, that in itself is trauma. Of course they are talking about different trauma than this -- but just the act of removal would… [more]
It's time for license renewal and all the assorted inspections, certifications and paperwork. When we were licensed, all these little things seemed so daunting but be assured, it does get easier. Here are my top five ways to stay sane while checking off the things I need to do:
- Use my calendar. Things that occur monthly, quarterly or annually are set to "repeat" on my calendar. For example, each month I must submit a medication report; once a year I need to provide our driver's licenses and car insurance. By setting these things a few days or weeks before they're due, I take the stress out of it.
- Remember my two cardinal rules: First, each item is easier than it sounds; Secondly, each thing
Having a foster child in your home can be just as intimidating as it is for the foster child to be in a new home and a new environment. There will be a transitional period for everyone involved; that’s normal. But there are some simple and effective ways that can help make your foster child feel at home. Remember that each situation is different; find the method that works best for you, your foster child, and your situation. Decorate: If you can, give your foster child his or her own personal space. Let him or her decorate it. Help your foster child decorate. You can use it as a bonding experience, and you’ll get to know your foster child more because you’ll be… [more]
When meeting your foster child for the first time, it can be nerve-wracking for both of you. But with just a little preparation, you can ease the tension and make him or her feel comfortable in his or her new home. Here are some helpful tips to make sure you and your home are ready for your new addition.
- Personal Space: Your foster child will feel out-of-sorts for the first little while. That is why it is important to provide a clean, personal space for the child. Make sure you've cleaned out drawers and closet space, as well as tidying up the room and making the bed. This shows that you want him or her to feel comfortable and welcome into your home.
If you are a foster parent, that has adopted one of the children that has come through your home, you need to investigate resources that may be available to your family. Post adoptive support may be available to your family. Lutheran Social Services is an agency that provides support to adoptive families. A lot of adoptive families do continue foster care after they have adopted, so a lot of these services can also benefit foster parents. The have support groups for the parents, that meet on a regular basis and child care can be provided (YEAH!!). They can also help you get in touch with therapists, doctors with specialties, support groups for disabilities, specialized training and can help you find your way through the maze of fostering and adopting. They… [more]
A website called Fosterclub is a great website for everyone. For foster children it provides information on a number of different issues that foster children face. There are contest for the foster child to get involved in. They have different opportunities for foster children to be involved in like 2007 Fosterclub All Star, awards for outstanding foster children, etc. They also provide a message board for foster children to communicate with other foster children. They also have an area for adults, mainly foster parents. You can receive free online training for foster care. It provides foster care information and conference dates with information. It also has an area that provides ways to help with foster children. Overall this website provides a lot of information… [more]
We all need time for ourselves especially foster moms. We can so easily get caught up with all the responsibility and drama of foster care. It seems like you are getting pulled in every different direction. Every therapist, caseworker, bio parent, child, school personal, doctor and whomever else, telling how to do things their way, what is wrong with how you do things, and then telling you not to listen to other people. Most of the time you can ignore it, let it go but there are times that it gets overwhelming. This happens to us all at some point. Take the time to recharge yourself physically and emotionally. Sometimes it is easier to just keep going than allowing yourself sometime to recharge. I know… [more]
Through this book you will look in the life of a foster child. The insight you gain from looking through the eyes of a foster child. This boy started his life in the foster care system as a baby and he aged out. You will feel the regression that this child endured growing up in the system. How he dealt with the rejection of society, foster parents, birth parents, and siblings. You will start the journey with a young boy that has no idea what a family is, and you will follow the hard road to a life as a husband and a father. You will experience the pain of the death of a foster brother that he grew close to and understand how the system did… [more]
IF I HAD MY CHILD TO RAISE OVER AGAIN If I had my child to raise all over again, I'd build self-esteem first, and the house later. I'd finger-paint more, and point the finger less. I would do less correcting and more connecting. I'd take my eyes off my watch, and watch with my eyes. I would care to know less and know to care more. I'd take more hikes and fly more kites. I'd stop playing serious, and seriously play. I would run through more fields and gaze at more stars. I'd do more hugging and less tugging. I'd see the oak tree in the acorn more often. I would be firm less often, and affirm much more. I'd model less about the lover of power, and more about the power of love. Diane Loomans We just have this moment in time. We… [more]
It is that time of year again. Yes, training hours for foster care will be due at the end of the month. With our busy and crazy households you sometimes overlook your last few hours needed. Maybe, your just like me and wait until the last minute. I will give you a few ideas and web sites to check out. Please be sure and check with your agency to see if the training will count towards your needed hours. Reading books and doing a report on it is an idea. If your agency allows this they may have a form to fill out, so check with them. http://www.fosterparentnet.org/ This foster care web page (above) offers a 3 credit hours on “Substance Abuse”