The Outside Looking In

August 26th, 2013
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Blog Post 5 - The Outside Looking InMy daughter met a new friend last year towards the end of the  school year in the after school program offered there. Both me and my daughters' new found friend mom was busy all summer so we could not get the girls together at all. This school year came around and the girls reconnected again and my daughter was invited over for a play date. Of course I needed to get better acquainted with my daughters' friend before I felt comfortable with her to be left alone over their house. We drove over to her friend’s house and the neighborhood was a beautiful neighborhood in fact one of the sought after neighborhoods in the area. The home was a… [more]

Words I Hate to Say

August 16th, 2013
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FosterParentImage Five months ago our life exploded. We went from being just the two of us for five years, to being all four of us in five days (soon-to-be-five since our boys’ little brother is moving in with us soon too). And that’s what we wanted. I have wanted to be a foster parent for as long as I can remember (for real). I did my research, talked to foster parents, read stories, scoured blogs. There were so many things to try to prepare myself to face, but among the things I didn’t anticipate was growing to hate my title of “foster parent.” At first it was the only parental title I’d ever known, so it was fine. But the more moments the boys… [more]

Does Not Play Well With Others

August 30th, 2012
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1121033_moonI have found that I do not play well with others. This may come as a surprise to some of you who know me. I appear to be the one who has the world by the tail. That is true- to a point. I do enjoy life and the people that I am walking with every day. I see no other way to live. Yet, there are hard times. Life is tricky. It is difficult to maneuver. The children in my home can wear me out. They are a constant drain on my emotions. I work harder keeping this family afloat then I have ever worked at anything. That is why I do not play well with others. When I get time… [more]

To I Pad or Not to I Pad

July 27th, 2012
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1031159_keyboardThat is the question that I am mulling over currently as I look to the new school year. I have one child that has not 'got it' educationally. She doesn't read yet. She doesn't write well. Her math skills are mediocre. So, do I put her to work on an I Pad? I just don't know. Most of the kids that come out of foster care have been surrounded by the television and other screens. This is not always the case but often. The I Pad has a lot to offer. The technology is great but my concern is that unless I 'unplug' her- she won't get it. I realize that I could potentially be sparking a huge debate here. I am not… [more]

Gratitude

April 23rd, 2012
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1167253_love_u_mammaToday, I have been thinking about the mass number of foster children I have routine contact with and wonder how in the world things have gotten to this point. It seems that in my area, the need for foster parents grows on a daily basis and the suitable homes are overflowing with kids. This is not a good thing. I worry about a world that has so many kids in need of rescuing. The good news is that there are many people stepping up to the plate. They want to make a difference in a child's life and are willing to invest themselves in the greater good. I love that. I heard a quote recently that put everything in perspective for me. It… [more]

The Best Kind

January 29th, 2012
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1129580_frozen_sunsetI am snuggled up on the sofa with two of my favorite people. It is just that kind of day- the snow is falling and wind blowing. It is cold. So the family is reading, blogging, watching, puzzling and cooking. Everyone is at their respective 'favorite' activity. I can't think of a better way to spend a long and lazy Sunday. It's the lazy days that get me thinking about how lucky I am to be where I am. My kids are not actually all my own, I have some on loan at this point. I am trying to work at capturing these moments in my heart because I know that some of my kids will not always be here. That is one of… [more]

Perspective

January 21st, 2012
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1376728_mirrorHaving an exchange student in my home has given me another perspective on life. Things in America are definitely different from in other countries. The things that we take for granted are not often not true in other parts of the world. One of the biggest differences is the Foster Care System. Those of you involved know that a lot of legalities go into the protection of children- sometimes it can feel as though there are too many hoops to jump through. If a child falls into an unsafe situation in America, the foster care system gets involved and tries to do what is best for the family. I know that this does not always seem to occur but it is the stated goal. In… [more]

Schedule to Aid Transition (and Beyond)

January 3rd, 2012
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Recently I've been using a visual schedule with my "littles." A visual schedule is just that; simple pictures, photographs or drawings show a child what is happening now and what is coming up next.  A web search of "visual schedule" will give you some great examples.  It is a fairly coDSCN4679mmon tool for kids with autism. We began the schedule as an attachment tool for our 3 and 4 year olds but I have realized how helpful it would be for pre-reading-aged foster kids as well.  When new children come to the family, we always take care to let them know the routine, what's coming next, etc.  I think them being able to see and manipulate it for themselves would be a tremendous… [more]

From Negative to Positive

December 22nd, 2011
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1145696_presents_for_christmasI remember Christmas at my house. It was very hard. I was a child that was not a foster child but maybe should have been. There were a tremendous amount of issues that inhibited a normal life at our house. I think that is why I focus so fully on making sure that the holidays are casual but busy. The casual comes from trying to help everyone focus on the reason for the season and the busy? That just comes with the territory. It's like a zoo around here. This time of year is a difficult one for foster children. There is so much hurt and want in their lives. Amidst the hustle and bustle of the holidays, they miss the people who are important… [more]

Games and Giggles

October 9th, 2011
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1359720_a_study_in_scarlet_1I am sitting on the front porch in the dusk of one of the most beautiful days of the year. The colors are in full bloom with muted reds, vibrant yellows, oranges and the occasional green poking through. The sun is setting- streaking the sky with blues, gold and oranges. It is one of the prettiest places I have ever seen and I get the joy and privilege of living amongst it. Life seems to get very busy this time of year with the farmers hurrying about gathering their crops, the children's involvement in school activities and holidays [seemingly] quickly approaching. Yet, I can vouch for the value of 'sitting a spell' and enjoying the general splendor of the season. This is one of those… [more]