I Carry On

March 27th, 2012
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850745_rainy_eveningWe have lost our sunshine. All of those posts about how beautiful it was outside and how happy I was that summer had come early this year- we are supposed to get snow by the end of the week. I had to laugh at myself for how downhearted that made me feel. I should expect this type of weather but somehow every year it sideswipes me and leaves me feeling as though someone took away my birthday. Perhaps that general feeling of desperation comes from the fact that when it is cold, the kids are inside more. I know that sounds terrible but it is so true. When they are outside, they make their messes out there. They work and play outside… [more]

Broken System – or Unrealistic View?

September 18th, 2011
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redrose-gfairyLately the news media here in central Texas has been focusing on the issue of kids aging out of foster care.  One statistic is that while foster (or former foster) children in Texas get a free college education in any state school, only 3% take advantage of that opportunity.  More pressing, one out of 4 kids who age out of foster care are homeless within one year.  That is a shocking statistic. The news media foists the blame squarely on Child Protective Services or uncaring foster parents.  Reporters blame the state for not making sure these kids get access to transitional programs and ultimately succeed.  It is a little less straightforward than that.  Most of these reports are failing to look at… [more]

I Don’t Feel Like It

January 15th, 2011
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786366_girlIt happened this week... I was talking to a friend who counsels teenagers. She is so good at what she does and because of her intense heart and desire to help, she sometimes gets very involved in their personal stories. She wants them to succeed. She was telling me about a young gal she was working with who had 'lost' both parents and was in a 'foster' type situation. The girl had no clear direction as to what she wanted in life, where she wanted to go or what to do. She was very close to aging out of the system and was literally swaying in the wind. My dear friend looked at me with tears in her eyes and said, "I just can't… [more]

Devastating Numbers for Foster Care

May 25th, 2007
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Categories: Aging Out

Teen foster care crisis continues to spiral out of control. The numbers of children aging out of foster care has jumped to 41 percent. Between 1998 and 2005 more than 165,000 teens have aged out of the system. Nearly 25,000 in 2005 alone: This shows a devastating increase of more teens falling between the cracks. They are left to face a harsh adult world as teens struggling with their own issues and demons from past abuse or neglect. We take them out of a world of drugs, abuse, or neglect in the hopes of giving them a chance at life, but we abandon them at the most critical time of their lives. Foster teens that age out find themselves returning to the lifestyle that they were removed from. Not always… [more]

Foster Children Ending Up Homeless

May 21st, 2007
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Categories: Aging Out

California has failed foster children aging out of the system, along with every other state in our nation. Why does this seem to be acceptable by society? Do we care enough to address the crisis that foster children are disregarded? When our children turn the “ripe old age” of 18, do we show them the door, while telling them to have a nice life? I do not know of parents that do this to their children. As society we allow this to happen to thousands of children a year. When someone turns 18 years old is this the magic age of responsibility when she can make life changing decisions? When I was 18, I was thinking about what I would be doing with my friends, about dating. At… [more]

Foster Children Are In Desperate Need Of Help Learning Skills To Transition Out of The System

March 22nd, 2007
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Categories: Aging Out

Foster children aging out of the system and getting ready to transition out of foster care are in need of help. They need to be taught how to become independent adults that can provide for themselves. We hear too often how foster children that age out of the system, end back in the system of foster care as parents. It is up to us to provide these young people with the skills to be successful in life and to discontinue the cycle from their bio parents. Young people need to learn how to be successful at a job. They have to learn how to work out conflicts, to get along with other employees, how to take direction from a boss, the importance of being on time… [more]

Foster Children Faced With Graduation

March 22nd, 2007
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Categories: Aging Out

It is becoming that time of year, for young teens embarking on a life of young adulthood. For most young people this is a very exciting time for them, to start a new phase in their lives. For a foster child, this mostly like is a very tough time for them. They have lived a life in a number of different foster homes, different caseworkers have come and gone. The system has been making decisions for them will be cutting the cord without any support. So, these children are starting the most important part of their life without a support system. Each year about 20,000 of the nation’s foster children age out of the system. These children are faced with some much continuing their… [more]

The Older Foster Child’s Struggles That Goes Beyond Part 2

January 6th, 2007
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Categories: Aging Out

Missouri is struggling with trying to get healthcare extend for foster children until the age of 21 (click to read article). In some states, foster children may remain in care until they turn 20 years old, as long as they attend school. One of the problems is that with some foster parents they do not have the room or they are unwilling to do the care after 18 years old. The reason is when a child turns 18 years old, they are an adult, so they cannot share a room with a child. In some case a foster family will have the child (or I guess in the eyes of some adults) moved when they turn 18 years old even if they are still in high school, it… [more]

Older Foster Child’s Struggles That Go Beyond Part 1

January 5th, 2007
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Categories: Aging Out

The older children living in foster care are at such a disadvantage. When they age out of foster care, they lose so much. They do not have a home or family to return to, that is truly their own. Yes, in some case they will have their foster family to count on. This is not in every case, and sad to say I know of foster parents that believe the day they turn 18 years old their job stops. Can you imagine your children, starting out in life without you to count on, to fall back on, or just to be there for them? Can you imagine starting your young adult life without the support of your family? Just because a child turns 18 does not mean that they… [more]