Dealing with Medical Issues

March 21st, 2012
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1080174_stethoscope_1I am sitting in the waiting room looking around at the many people coming in and out of the area. This is a busy place this morning. The reason I am here, I talk about in my personal blog but suffice it to say, "I have a child in surgery." Sitting here has offered me time to think about the foster parents who voluntarily take children who have medical needs and sign up for a lifestyle of hospitals and doctor offices. I guarantee, this is not for the faint of heart. Yet, there are many children who need that person to step in and take over the role of mother/father AND advocate AND semi-medical professional. My middle son fell in that category. At… [more]

Looking For Summer

February 29th, 2012
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1286631_happy_kid_4Here is a little something that I have noticed; when children go outside to play their perspective changes. The once tired, groggy child flies through the back door laughing and giggling- kicking off their shoes in their haste to tell you what they found or did. It is like someone turned a switch. Here in the Midwest, we do not get the out-of -doors times this time of year. It is cold and dreary. The kids fight. The snow turns to rain- except today. It is a great day when the windows can be opened to allow the fresh air to flow through the house and the children's voices can be heard in a distance as they run and play. I love that… [more]

Dealing with Emotional Issues

February 23rd, 2012
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1327383_shout_let_it_all_outThere are times that I get so tired and wonder why in the world I am investing so much of myself and my family into children that are 'not mine.' It seems that a large portion of my days are spent picking up the pieces of shattered lives that I did not shatter. Do you ever feel that way? One of the hardest parts of being a foster care parent is the constant need and emotional issues. This can reek havoc on even the strongest of person. Emotional battles are so often fought within and take a lot of work to pinpoint. Then when they are pinpointed, an attempt can be made to deal with them. I use the word attempt because emotional… [more]

The Gift of Time

May 8th, 2011
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277079_popcorn_2I took myself to the movies last night. I should have been working. I should have been blogging... It is true. I sat down at my computer in order to complete many necessary things and ended up at the movies by myself surrounded by a gallon tub of popcorn and an iced soda. It was wonderful. I would recommend it to any of you who have dedicated your lives to children. I have to tell the truth here. We are among friends here, right? I left a sink full of dishes and the children frozen burritos to throw in the microwave. I kicked my way passed the many loads of laundry that inhibited my exit, kissed each child while firmly stating, "Don't hurt… [more]

One Child at a Time

March 18th, 2011
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1172418_emaIt is hard to believe that it had been almost a week since I posted. Time is definitely moving along steadily. Thank heavens I enjoy an active lifestyle or I would be left running behind the pack. It makes me think of the typical family. Anyone with children can attest to the fact that children equal busy. There is no way to avoid the activities that keep you busy when your house is full. So how does the foster parent take on and care for a special needs child amidst all of the normal engagements that result from having a family? Is it worth it to the rest of the family to take on the extra responsibility? These are the questions that go… [more]

Therapy on the Go.

January 5th, 2011
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150528_dollWhy are all the difficult questions posed while you are driving? As if you don't have enough to concentrate on with keeping people alive. Somehow you are supposed to come up with answers for such doozy as, "Mom, why can't I have my mom"? Really? I am supposed to navigate through rush hour traffic and do therapy at the same time? Really? The little boy staying with us in foster care came up with that one tonight. If that wasn't enough he asked the whopper of a question while I was driving around my son, who is currently struggling with his own adoption. I paused, took a deep breath, and tried to come up with an answer that would satisfy his young mind. Luckily… [more]

Foster Children May Need Therapeutic Care

July 7th, 2007
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Some foster children can be successful in therapeutic care rather than the basic foster care. Foster children who continually struggle with behavior problems, mental illnesses, mental retardation, and many countless failures and disruptions in basic foster children can end up in a therapeutic foster placement or treatment care. A high school boy named Patrick was placed in a therapeutic foster home due to his behaviors instead of being placed in a juvenile facility. After finding the right placement for this boy he has improved. Patrick is turning into a teenager that is learning how to get along with others, how be successful in school, and even develop friendships without tantrums, hostility, or being defiant. Therapeutic foster children need firm guidance, a lot of re-teaching over and… [more]

Therapeutic Foster Children and Safety for Others

May 29th, 2007
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We have used alarms with our foster children to ensure the safety of others and to be able to sleep at night. I have been known to use a handful in one room for one child. Some can and will try to find a way around them, so if you have more than a couple one will sound. You cannot be too careful with your own children in possible harm's way. I also place two alarms on my own children’s bedroom door to ensure that at night no one could harm them. I woke up one night (because I felt someone in our bedroom) low and behold there was our son (That we later learned was schizophrenic and homicidal) standing at the end of my side of the bed… [more]

Therapeutic Foster Children

May 29th, 2007
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What is heartbreaking is that the ages of the therapeutic foster child is getting younger. I believe that the drug problem of this country is a factor of this. When moms are so high on “meth”, their parenting and children are not a concern. All they can think about is their next fix (how they are going to get it and pay for it). So the children become part of it by living where drugs are being cooked, men having sex with the children to pay for the drugs, watching mom prostitute herself to pay for the drugs (some cases their children have been in the hotel while the act take places their age does not matter). Most of these children do not know what a… [more]

Therapeutic or Treatment Foster Care

May 29th, 2007
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This is type of foster care that I am licensed in so I do have more knowledge in this area. In this type of foster care, you will be working with medically fragile and emotionally disturbed children. These children probably are not the best fit with parents that do not have parenting experience. Most therapeutic foster care agencies wants a parent that has experience working or parenting trouble teens, emotionally disturbed children or very difficult children. Therapeutic fostering is also called treatment fostering by different people. These are not children that have experienced some abuse. Most of these children have lived with severe abuse and some have lived this way for years. They have some much anger, rage, or hatred that is too overwhelming for them to… [more]