Full Circle

November 12th, 2011
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1024776_tripletsIt is amazing to look out the window and see sunshine where yesterday there was snow. The weather patterns here are amazing. I am excited to be able to send the kids outside to play and they won't be pounding on the door saying, "I'm cold." The kids continue to grow and develop. It is interesting to watch. Nothing prepared me for a time when things would change and the kids would change. I look at other couples my age who are sporting babies and young toddlers around. I do not think that I could do that anymore- I have gotten too used to a little freedom. There are many people who foster babies. I was never that person and I have not grown… [more]

Bye, Bye, Beautiful

August 7th, 2011
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Welbabyhandl, our sweet baby is going home today.¬† His adoption plan hit a legal snafu and Mommy is going to parent this beautiful boy.¬† It was a quick 8 days. This is the sweet stuff of fostering; I might as well admit it.¬† The complete purity, the immense hopefulness of a brand new life is tonic for the soul.¬† It is rich refreshment. I think what really touches me is not only how much I enjoy this baby, but how he has lifted and inspired the whole family.¬† "The Blitz," age 2, was completely tickled by this tiny human being.¬† Every time baby opens his eyes and looks around or waves his tiny hands, The Blitz points at him and laughs hysterically.¬† To… [more]

New Friend

July 28th, 2011
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babyhandI'm mildly sleep deprived, but for the best reason.  I have a two-day old foster baby.  He had a wakeful period from 4:30 this morning until 5:45 which, as it turns out, is exactly how long it took me to fully wake up and lose interest in going back to bed.  Now I'm wide awake and he is blissfully sleeping beside me.  Oh well, I don't spend that much time worrying about sleep.

He arrived yesterday and I put my make-ready checklist into action.¬† I realized I should add one thing to that checklist:¬† I always jump in the shower just before the social worker arrives because regardless of the age of the child, those showers seem hard to come… [more]

A Winding Road of Hope

April 16th, 2011
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Categories: Basics, Infant, Siblings

1257037_winding_roadFoster care is an amazing thing. In a world where everything does not always go as it should and people don't always love as they should, foster care means hope. Hope for kids. Hope for parents. Hope for the future. It is a privilege to be able to say, "I work in foster care." Not every country has the infrastructure and financial backing to support such a program. In the countries that don't, the children suffer. Foster care, when done right offers support, family and comfort for a child in transition. Quite often this is the only stability that they witness. What an awesome privilege and tremendous responsibility. There are hard times for the people in foster care situations. Difficulty seems to follow this… [more]

Today, I Tip My Hat

January 23rd, 2011
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Categories: Infant, Placements

1275558_handI talked to one of the most beautiful young ladies the other day at church. She is no more than twenty-three years old, married for about six years (she married young) and has four children of her own. She and her young husband have a heart for children that has led them to 'getting' their foster care license. I could stop the story there and be amazed at these young people but it goes further. Right after they finished their licensing, they got a call about a baby (three months old) that was a family member and needed a home. In the course of the conversation, they said yes though in their heart of hearts...they didn't want all of the stress that… [more]

Legal Risk Placement

June 23rd, 2007
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Categories: Infant, Placements

Some agencies use the term ‚Äúlegal risk placement‚ÄĚ while others do not. Some people state it is a made up term. I do hear this term used a lot with agencies, caseworkers, foster parents and child welfare. A "legal risk placement" goal is usually adoption but there is a ‚Äúrisk‚ÄĚ that the child will be returned to the biological parents. In cases where this is not the first time the child has come into care, in prior placement(s) the child was reunited with biological parents. After returning to foster care again it may be decided to look for a foster to adopt placement with the plan being adoption. Children that are more apt be to labeled a ‚Äúlegal risk placement‚ÄĚ are cases where biological parents have… [more]

Why is it so Hard to Adopt an Infant or Toddler through Foster Care?

June 22nd, 2007
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Categories: Infant, The Questions

Foster parents that have been parenting the foster children while they have be in care in most cases will get the first option to adopt the children. In a lot of cases, the foster parents do not necessarily start fostering a child thinking that they will adopt, but as time goes on the child becomes a part of their family. In foster care, some children just capture your heart from the beginning and we have to wait to see how things play out with the biological parents. When young foster children are placed into a foster family in most cases people get attached pretty quickly. When we started our "foster to adopt" journey we were looking for school age children to adopt but we were blessed with a baby… [more]

Infants In Foster Care

May 13th, 2007
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I am always being asked why more foster parents do not want to care for infants or young toddlers. There is not an easy answer to this question. There are a number of reasons why a foster family may not take babies. A number of babies in foster care are drug babies. Drug babies need more care and attention than other babies. You will have a number of sleepless nights while rocking a continuously crying baby. You may be faced with a baby that becomes stiff when you are holding her or has major muscle tremors both due to drugs. Fostering drug babies can be a major family commitment. We received a newborn infant straight from the hospital at three days old. She was a drug baby… [more]

Desperately Needing Foster Care for Little Ones

May 13th, 2007
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An agency is trying to lure foster parents to stay at home to care for babies that are in foster care in Palm Beach County. They are increasing the pay for infants to $27 per baby per day. The shelters in the local area are full with many little ones. 452 of these children that are living in shelters are 2 years old and younger. Most families, even foster families, need a two parent income to make ends meet. Fostering younger children means the cost of daycare and just the bigger expense of younger children makes it harder to place these little ones. The private foster care agency that I work with has only two families that are willing to foster infants (and I am one… [more]