Dealing with Emotional Issues

February 23rd, 2012
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1327383_shout_let_it_all_outThere are times that I get so tired and wonder why in the world I am investing so much of myself and my family into children that are 'not mine.' It seems that a large portion of my days are spent picking up the pieces of shattered lives that I did not shatter. Do you ever feel that way? One of the hardest parts of being a foster care parent is the constant need and emotional issues. This can reek havoc on even the strongest of person. Emotional battles are so often fought within and take a lot of work to pinpoint. Then when they are pinpointed, an attempt can be made to deal with them. I use the word attempt because emotional… [more]

Warm Memories

October 28th, 2011
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1319176_christmas_giftsThe month of November is quickly approaching and with that the rush of the holiday season- what a wonderful time. Family and friends gather. Good food it made and quickly eaten. Life is good. Yet for many children the holiday season brings feelings of dread, resentment and dissatisfaction. The children in foster care often struggle with confusion during the holidays because of the many hurts they have experienced. They (perhaps) want to enjoy where they are but do not have the bonds that are required to do so. This can be very difficult for the child to understand and work through. At holiday time, families that are struggling seem to be under more pressure than usual. Money it often tighter, fighting increases and major… [more]

Learning What it Means to be Part of a Professional Team

August 24th, 2011
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A couple of years ago, we had a sweet little boy in our home.  I'll call him Ricky.  He was only 16 months old, and it was his first removal.  He had allegedly been harmed by his mother's boyfriend. He was my first CPS case, so when it was time to take him to his first family visit, I was nervous.  The waiting room was completely full of people there on other state business, but I quickly picked out his parents, awkwardly sitting together and talking quietly.  It was winter and I was worried about all the coughing in the room, so I took him to an isolated corner to wait until called. The spot I chose to wait happened to be close to the window where the CPS visit check in… [more]

The Adjudication Hearing Placing a Child in Foster Care

April 22nd, 2008

When a child is removed from his or her parental home a judge or magistrate must sign an order allowing it. A child protective service worker usually requests this order, although a police officer may also request it. Once the removal has been approved, the child can be placed temporarily in foster care, a group home, or juvenile facility. That order is temporary, however, and after it is signed, an adjudication hearing must take place within 72 hours. Typically, a foster care worker has not yet been assigned to the case. Therefore, the child protective service worker involved in the removal will attend this adjudication hearing. If the child protective service worker has already been working with this family trying to prevent removal, then the adjudication… [more]

Emergency Foster Care

May 26th, 2007
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This type of foster care is not for everybody. You have to be willing and able to take placements at a moment's notice. For myself, someone that likes to have control of the situations this can be a challenge and something that you have to work through. This can be exciting and pose obstacles for the foster family to overcome. You never know how many children you will wake up to find yourself mothering in just a few short hours. You will be working with a wide range of ages. One of the challenges that you may face is being unprepared for an infant with formula, diapers, and all those other little baby things. Another challenge that I was faced with is having children already using my… [more]