A Home Filled with Love and Laughter

October 6th, 2012
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617844_never_grow_upAs I sit here thinking this morning, I cannot help but bring focus on the huge need for foster parents today. There are so many children in need of solid, stable homes and so few prepared to stand in this gap. It takes a lot of dedication, sacrifice and strength to place yourself in a situation that will be trying. If you know that it will be difficult going into it, healthy fear sets in. I use the word healthy before fear because it is accurate. There is not service to be found in walking into a foster care situation without the ability to handle it. An honest look at fostering, from someone who has done it, will show that their are daily… [more]

Calling Out the Greats

September 30th, 2012
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1207125_promiseI think that one of the most amazing people I have ever had the privilege of watching was a foster mother who intentionally opened her life to foster teens in her area. I have never seen a  woman so willing to deal with the issues and baggage that a teen brings home in order to change a life. This woman used to tell me that her goal was to ensure that the teenagers in her care were given the opportunities that they needed for success. She not only made sure that they got the services that they needed, she also sat with them and made sure that their fully understood their responsibilities. This was good for the teens in her care because… [more]

Does Not Play Well With Others

August 30th, 2012
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1121033_moonI have found that I do not play well with others. This may come as a surprise to some of you who know me. I appear to be the one who has the world by the tail. That is true- to a point. I do enjoy life and the people that I am walking with every day. I see no other way to live. Yet, there are hard times. Life is tricky. It is difficult to maneuver. The children in my home can wear me out. They are a constant drain on my emotions. I work harder keeping this family afloat then I have ever worked at anything. That is why I do not play well with others. When I get time… [more]

Touching the Life of a Teen

June 27th, 2012
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1095865_happy_time_1I am sitting in a very hot room waiting for a pack of teenagers to head my way. I am their teacher. I look forward to every moment of that teaching time but I have to admit, I am relishing the quiet of this room to collect my thoughts before I am overtaken. Teens are an interesting bunch. They have so much energy and a certain power that resides in their youth. I think that is why many people covet the teen years and wish them back. If the teen years are good, they are very good. If they are not- they are terrible. This is where foster teens struggle. They are in what some would call the prime of their lives and… [more]

Tough Love

March 31st, 2012
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485740_steel_heartSometimes on mornings like this I just want to crawl back into bed and sleep for another three or four hours. Doesn't that sound good? Yet, I know that there is a lot of work that must be done in this house, the lawn and with the kids. I know that my responsibilities for today alone could easily require 30 hours to complete. In lieu of all that I must do, I sit here on this fine morning and blog. Makes sense to me! Responsibility and respect for those under my care keeps me on track. There are many things that I would rather not do. I had to fold and put away the laundry this morning. I did not want to. Some… [more]

Dealing with Medical Issues

March 21st, 2012
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1080174_stethoscope_1I am sitting in the waiting room looking around at the many people coming in and out of the area. This is a busy place this morning. The reason I am here, I talk about in my personal blog but suffice it to say, "I have a child in surgery." Sitting here has offered me time to think about the foster parents who voluntarily take children who have medical needs and sign up for a lifestyle of hospitals and doctor offices. I guarantee, this is not for the faint of heart. Yet, there are many children who need that person to step in and take over the role of mother/father AND advocate AND semi-medical professional. My middle son fell in that category. At… [more]

Looking For Summer

February 29th, 2012
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1286631_happy_kid_4Here is a little something that I have noticed; when children go outside to play their perspective changes. The once tired, groggy child flies through the back door laughing and giggling- kicking off their shoes in their haste to tell you what they found or did. It is like someone turned a switch. Here in the Midwest, we do not get the out-of -doors times this time of year. It is cold and dreary. The kids fight. The snow turns to rain- except today. It is a great day when the windows can be opened to allow the fresh air to flow through the house and the children's voices can be heard in a distance as they run and play. I love that… [more]

Dealing with Emotional Issues

February 23rd, 2012
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1327383_shout_let_it_all_outThere are times that I get so tired and wonder why in the world I am investing so much of myself and my family into children that are 'not mine.' It seems that a large portion of my days are spent picking up the pieces of shattered lives that I did not shatter. Do you ever feel that way? One of the hardest parts of being a foster care parent is the constant need and emotional issues. This can reek havoc on even the strongest of person. Emotional battles are so often fought within and take a lot of work to pinpoint. Then when they are pinpointed, an attempt can be made to deal with them. I use the word attempt because emotional… [more]

Adios, Friend!

February 15th, 2012
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Categories: Issues, Short Term

DollyI love the word "adios."  Amongst my Spanish speaking friends, it really just means good-bye but the literal translation is more like "to God."  It seems like the perfect term to send off our latest little charge. “La pequeña muchacha" has gone home.  She was both funny and sweet and we really enjoyed her stay.  Her last day went quite smoothly; she woke up full of smiles and greetings.  She ate heartily, she played hard. Around noon, the social worker called me to say that she would probably arrive in late afternoon to take her home.  After a little debate, I decided to put her down for nap around 1:30 when my kids went to rest time.  She was tired and cranky by then. … [more]

La Pequeña Muchacha

February 6th, 2012
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Categories: Short Term

tink and dollWe have a new little friend in our house for a very short stay; it's a long nickname but we refer to her amongst ourselves as  "la pequeña muchacha."  She speaks mostly Spanish which has been a wonderful challenge for me; I have not used much Spanish for a long time, but as it turns out, baby-talk Spanish works really well with toddlers! As we were preparing for her arrival, I was warned that she throws tantrums, does not like to share, and can be unkind to age-mates.  This totally cracked me up because she is 2-1/2.  Sounds about right, doesn't it?  She has been here a few days and must be getting comfortable because yesterday she pulled my 2-year-0ld's hair… [more]