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I do not advise this because it causes the caseworker problems which means it can come back to bite you on the back side. Things happen sometimes without notice, so you have to roll with the punches (so to speak).

I now live close to the state line, so we do a lot of shopping by crossing the state line. I had to talk with my caseworker about this and then they got special permission from the judge for us to go across state lines on day trips. If we want to stay the night across state lines we have to get special permission from the caseworker and judge. ... more

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My view is that she could not even keep this child molester out of her life while he was in jail. Can you really trust that she would keep this child molester away from her children after he was out of jail? The choices they make can destroy a child’s life.

So, there are a lot of things that happen to my foster children that I do not believe is in their best interest. This is one reason I believe you have to teach and love that child as much as you can while they are in your home. This is also why you have to show the foster child what a real family is like... more

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The parents were business people with a few connections from the community. The good thing about being placed into a long term treatment facility she was placed far away from home, so she did not have to endure the pain of the visits seeing her brother living where she so desperately wanted to be.

I had two young toddlers that had been removed because of sexual abuse (to all three girls and one of them was two years old) from mother’s live in boyfriend (maybe the father to the two year old, he had repeatedly molested). The really bad part was that there had... more

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The older sister was not interested in seeking help for her younger sister were trying to find a way to work things out. So this young girl was removed once again from a place she called home and this time without her younger brother. At this point she is placed back into foster care and was placed in my home. My foster daughter was pulled out of school every Friday in the middle of the day to spend two hours getting to and from a two hour visit (yes that is a total of four hours). I have never seen a child tormented more by a visit to this child was. She spent two... more

I have been asked how I deal with accepting change or letting go of things when I do not necessarily agree with decisions that have been made for my foster son or daughter. Really there is no easy answer to this question. Every case every child will have different circumstances so the answers will vary every time. Yes you may be the only person the child has ever felt love from, and who truly cares about what is the best interest of the child. Sad to say you’re a minor person (as a Foster parent) in the grand scheme of the system making choices and decisions for the child’s future. In some cases the caseworkers do not want the foster parents involved at all.

I had a young foster daughter... more

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My friend wanted to mother her and stated that there was no harm done. Yes, I realize that it was not a horrible thing the child did. I also know and explained that I have this child for a short time in their life. The time I have them I have to teach, give them morals, life lessons, show them right from wrong and show them a different way in life. You have to remember that most likely they have never had someone to teach them anything or want a better life for them. My friend did understand after I explained and she handled it just as I would. Then she cried on my shoulder after. It made a very big impact on this child and showed her that someone else cared about... more

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She stated that they came from her house. I explained that I knew that was not true since I unpacked her belongs. I did not get her to tell me where they came from but I took them. I thought maybe she got them at a visit with bio mother or she had them on her person when placed with us. Yes, maybe this was envy on my part but I have never claimed to a pro at parenting. A few days later my daughter wanted her friend (the above family friend) to come over but she could not because someone had lost two of her Dad’s remote controls. Oh my, the thoughts go racing through my head. I called my foster daughter into the room, explained I knew were the remotes came from and... more

Dealing with foster children can add some spice in your life to say the least. It can also add stress to relationships with family and friends. Hopefully you have laid some ground work about foster children, what they are dealing with and possible behaviors (click here to read an article addressing this). There will be times when you will be faced with dealing with a foster child’s anger, foul mouth, violence, stealing, talking about their abuse to others, lying, or them abusing others in front of others.

When we were visiting a family friend, one of our foster daughters decided to be open and graphic about her bio mother’s drug abuse. With a house full of children... more

This last week I have been off on my blogs. My computer crashed in December with 3 years of photos of my children, so I spent a lot of time trying to find someone to spend the time saving my computer or getting all my pictures off. Yes, I know I need to burn them to CD’s, but things are always so busy. I found someone to fix my computer (Yeah, Yeah!!!!). I have spent (sorry, my husband) has spent the last two days trying to get things changed over to my good old computer.

It has been a real crazy few days for my family and I have been trying to keep my head above the water (so to speak). I got a phone call from my daughter Allie , that my son Lynn had hit his head on the bus and... more

Continued........... The car drive alone with a young autistic child was to the point of making you want to pull your own hair out. Once everyone had some time outside the van, things started to settle down. After the long, long car ride form “hell” I started to think my husband was right that I was crazy to do this. The one thing that my husband and I had decided is that by taking the boys, we would not allow having the boys take away from our children’s vacation and experience of the coast. Yes, by taking our young difficult foster sons on our family vacation causes some problems. Problems that we as a family overcame. Our children had a wonderful time and made... more